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Post by miranda » Fri Dec 29, 2006 10:15 am

I am loath to mention anything too personal on here, but I am in so much grief, and I probably won't be posting for a while--not that anyone will take much note of my absence...

My mom was over for dinner last night, and she relayed some news that I just cannot deal with, at all. A kindly, elderly gentleman, who adored my mom, and encouraged her interests in the theatre, who'd spent occasional holidays with us and bought us all gifts (even though he lived on a fixed income and had little money), whose face lit up whenever he saw me and he's give me a big hug and say, "miranda, you're looking so lovely!", and I always knew that he really meant it--nothing with him was ever phony, or a sham--this wonderful man was brutally murdered. I wasn't as close to him as my mother was, but he was always so gentle and attentive and sweet to me, and he truly loved my family. I now know details of his murder that are going to haunt me for the rest of my life....the rest of my life.

We live in such a sh*t world. I hope his murderer dies a long, slow, painful death. This worthless piece of scum isn't up for the death penalty, because the murder wasn't premeditated. I just grieve, and grieve for the loss of Bill, one of the kindest men I've ever met.

I apologize for unloading all this here. Corlyss and Lance, if you think this post should be deleted--it's your board. But anyone who reads this, if you notice that I'm not posting anymore, this is why.

My best to you all.
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Post by Werner » Fri Dec 29, 2006 10:24 am

There is nothing that any of us can say to ease your pain, besides extending our sympathy to you.

All I can say is to hope that you will watch your life go on its course, and let the passage of time do its work.

And we'll be here for you whenever you wish to express yourself.
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Post by Ralph » Fri Dec 29, 2006 10:49 am

Murder and the hurt it brings to a very wide range of persons has always been a reality. It's not this time, it's all time.

I understand your deep grief. I have known many people whose lives were affected by homicide in vartious forms and as a member of a busy police department I saw a number of murders up close.

Certainly I hope your friend's killer is brought to justice but that alone is rarely the full closure that survivors deserve but seldom achieve. I can only suggest that you dwell on the warm memories of your friendship with the gentleman.

Surely it was appropriate for you to post your feelings here among your friends.
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Post by Donald Isler » Fri Dec 29, 2006 11:07 am

Very sorry to hear this terrible news.

Best wishes to you and your family.
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Post by Gary » Fri Dec 29, 2006 11:16 am

Sorry to hear this. All I can say is be strong, Miranda, be strong.

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Post by Ted » Fri Dec 29, 2006 11:21 am

Ralph wrote:
Surely it was appropriate for you to post your feelings here among your friends.
Amen to that

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Post by living_stradivarius » Fri Dec 29, 2006 12:09 pm

I'm so sorry miranda for your mother and you. May Bill's warmth live in your hearts forever.
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Post by RebLem » Fri Dec 29, 2006 7:01 pm

Miranda, it doesn't look like this thread is going to be deleted, but if it is, I will leave this forum and hope to see you in other forums of which I am a member. You can go to Google, enter RebLem and hit the lucky button and get in touch with me independently of this forum anytime.

I am not a therapist or a counsellor or even an especially wise person, so I am not quite sure what to say. I would like to know the name of the defendant in this case, if you don't mind. I would like all the information I would need to follow the case through various internet news sources. Would you mind providing this information?
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Post by Ralph » Fri Dec 29, 2006 8:39 pm

RebLem wrote:Miranda, it doesn't look like this thread is going to be deleted, but if it is, I will leave this forum and hope to see you in other forums of which I am a member. You can go to Google, enter RebLem and hit the lucky button and get in touch with me independently of this forum anytime.

I am not a therapist or a counsellor or even an especially wise person, so I am not quite sure what to say. I would like to know the name of the defendant in this case, if you don't mind. I would like all the information I would need to follow the case through various internet news sources. Would you mind providing this information?
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There is no reason for this thread to be deleted. I'm sure Corlyss and Lance fully understand Miranda's sorrow.
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Post by jbuck919 » Fri Dec 29, 2006 8:52 pm

I am so sorry for you, Miranda, and also sorry that I only read this thread just now so that my condolences seem belated. Many of us share personal things here. This is the kind of thing we all hope we never have to share. You are among friends.

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Post by Teresa B » Sat Dec 30, 2006 8:33 am

I just saw this thread too. I am so sorry, Miranda. I can't imagine what you must be going through. It is a cold universe, unjust and uncaring about human suffering. There is no sense to be made out of your friend's tragedy, but a lot of sense in your memories of his kindness and warmth toward you and your mother.

We are all in this together--you have friends.

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